Since Valentine's Day is here, we thought it was a perfect time to talk about love, the hormone of love and enhancing your love this Valentine.
Life has taught me that I can never give to someone else that I don’t have in myself. No matter what that thing is, whether material, emotional or spiritual. So to extend love to another person, we must first learn how to love ourselves.
Love to one another truly starts with self-love.
Taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves increases the oxytocin levels in the brain.
Why is Self love a crucial part of a successful relationship?
Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that impacts your social interactions and sexual response and is very important for having generosity and empathy.
Empathy is the key to a successful and healthy relationship. It enables you to see and perceive through the lens of your partner and have understanding and compassion that will bridge the gap between the two.
Oxytocin produces a pleasurable and calming sensation when released throughout the body. It is known as the hormone of love and is considered the root of all romantic relationships. It gives you the feeling of bonding with another person.
A study found that those couples at the initial ‘honeymoon’ stages of their relationships had heightened amounts of oxytocin. This may explain why the most couples experience deep ecstasy and exaltation during that period. Unfortunately, most couples end up losing this state of exaltation after a few months.
Many people think it’s natural to lose that exaltation and connection over time.
However, in this blog, I would like to share with you a different story.
I am a firm believer that mediocrity is self-inflicted and greatness is self-bestowed.
So let’s forget about those who believe that losing exaltation is normal and focus on how we can create greatness, deeper connection, and more exaltation.
I believe that this exaltation and connection are meant to grow bigger and bigger. However, deep connection requires nurturing actions balanced between the couple. Your ability to act, enabling others is directly proportion to your ability to nurture and love yourself.
When you are too busy to love and take care of yourself, you can never experience true love to a partner, a friend, or a family member.
8 Natural Ways to increase Oxytocin
So Let’s talk about effective ways to love ourselves, increase our oxytocin, and grow an excellent relationship with our loved ones.
Research shows that oxytocin is directly activated and controlled by The hormone Vitamin D that your body produces when exposed to the UVB frequency from sunlight.
UV light plays a fundamental role in breaking down cholesterol and helping the body to maintain healthy cholesterol level.
When cholesterol is broken down by UV light, it allows us to make all the molecules derived from cholesterol, such as sex hormones and Vitamin D3.
Yes, not only will sunlight increase your oxytocin and ability to bond with your partner, but it will also BOOST YOUR SEX HORMONES and enhance romantic passion in your relationship.
Additionally, every tissue in the body, including the brain, has a vitamin D receptor.
Can you imagine how costly it is to your physiology and health to be deficient in this hormone?
Light is the activator of many glands and the programmer of our hormones and neurotransmitters.
Why is that important for love and the hormone of love?
Because Oxytocin is produced in the hypothalamus in the brain and light is the most crucial information that is continuously transmitted through the eye-brain connection to reset the clock's timing that centers the hypothalamus and orchestrates the myriad functions that are managed by this region in the brain.
The pituitary gland then secretes oxytocin.
It is now very known that light entering our eyes converts into an electrical signal that turns on the pituitary gland in the brain. The quality of this light will directly affect how optimal the pituitary gland is at secreting the various hormones and neurotransmitters such as oxytocin.
Light truly creates reality by programming the neurotransmitters that enable us to model ourselves in space and time and interact with each other and our environment.
Optimal light always leads to an optimal reality, and junk light will undoubtedly lead to a miserable perception of ourselves and others and a poor relationship with our environment.
Enhance your love on this Valentine and start gorging on sunlight:
- Watch the sunrise.
- There is a time every morning when UVA light appears. Use the Circadian app to know when this is in your location. UVA light, captured by aromatic amino acids in the eyes, results in the production of dopamine and serotonin. Invest 20 minutes outdoors around that time.
- As the sun approaches its highest position in the sky around 11:00 am, UVB appears, enabling you to make Vitamin D. Use the circadian app to track UVB in your environment and make sure that you expose yourself to 20-30 minutes of sunlight around that time.
Perhaps, you can do this with your lover and enjoy better sexuality and connection.
Research has shown that melatonin, the hormone of darkness, interacts with oxytocin and significantly increases its production.
Melatonin is produced in the eye, in the morning sunlight, and is released at night, by the pineal gland in the brain, after 2 to 3 hours of not receiving blue and green light frequencies through your eyes.
When the sun is setting, and if you were to be outside, your eyes will naturally witness the slowly fading light, declining in the blue and green light frequencies and slowly transitioning into the darkness of the night.
This light information signals to the pineal gland to start secreting the very powerful hormone melatonin, enabling you to wind down, relax and access a restful night sleep.
But these days, we fool our eyes with the wrong type of light information from artificial light, which inhibits melatonin production at the right time of the day.
This valentine, love yourself enough by
- It is being present outside at the time when the sun is setting.
- Reduce lights and cellphone use in the hours before bedtime
- Install F.lux on your computer
- Get yourself a pair of the high-quality circadian lens technology system from Vivarays that will enable you to block the artificial light after the sunset and protect your melatonin and oxytocin.
- Sleep in a very dark room. If this is challenging, check out the VivaRays blackout organic cotton masks.
- Turn off your cellphones and wifi’s when you sleep because those non-native EMF are a form of light and will negatively influence your melatonin production.
Bonus for Lovers:
- Watch the sunset together
- Light up some candles and create a dim, romantic environment
- Buy the couple’s VivaRays offer and enjoy your romantic evenings free from the junk artificial light
You can also increase oxytocin with herbs like chamomile, fenugreek, and jasmine oil.
Chamomile is a medical herb that has been traditionally used for its calming and anti-inflammatory properties. It is known to increase oxytocin and lower the stress hormone cortisol.
Fenugreek is one of the most popular herbs that has been traditionally used to enhance sex drive.
It also naturally produces more oxytocin in humans.
Jasmine oil has also been used for centuries in Asia to help manage stress, improve sleep, produce oxytocin, and enhance sexual drive.
Now you know which herbs to drink during your romantic dimly lit evening with your lover!
Touch quickly increases oxytocin levels in the brain.
This includes kissing, cuddling, and sex.
But non-sexual touch such as hugging and shaking hands increases oxytocin as well.
Giving yourself a warm loving hug is another great effective way to increase your oxytocin.
Hugging a loved one for 10 seconds or more helps boost your immune system, fight infection, increase dopamine and reduce depression.
Dr. Paul Zak, recommends much more than just one hug every day; he recommends eight hugs every day.
This valentine, enhance your love with the healing art of touch:
- Hug yourself and be curious about what it feels like to touch the different parts of your body
- Practice hugging your loved ones for more than 10 seconds. It might feel uncomfortable at first. Be present with the discomfort, breath and feel the beauty of connecting with another human being through touch
- Give your partner a relaxing and loving massage
Acupuncture is an alternative treatment that has been shown to increase oxytocin levels. Acupuncture also naturally increases dopamine, stimulates the vagus nerve, and increases blood flow to the brain.
You can surprise your partner with an acupuncture session and enjoy the great benefits as a couple. It can make significant impact on your love this valentine.
6. Relaxing Music And Chanting
Listening to soothing and relaxing music has been shown to increase your level of oxytocin. A study showed that listening to music for 30 minutes increases oxytocin more than resting for 30 minutes.
It gets even better if you’re singing along.
Humming and mantra singing has also been shown to activate the vagus nerve and induce more profound relaxation.
This is a great practice to implement in your daily habits and evoke connection, fun, play, and rest.
7. Hot And Cold Temperatures
Research has shown that hot temperatures and increased sweating activate a specific oxytocin-producing part of the brain. But it is not only a hot temperature. Cold temperatures have been shown to significantly up-regulate oxytocin production in the brain.
So, why not combine both?
This valentine's day:
- Take a hot shower and end your shower with 2-3 mins of cold water.
- Alternate between the sauna and cold showers.
- If you’re like me and enjoy being out in nature, I suggest making a nice fire by a frozen lake and alternating between the lake and the fire.
Volunteering is another excellent way to boost your oxytocin.
A study published in the journal "Hormones and Behavior" found that charitable behavior reduces stress and improves health by increasing oxytocin levels.
So get out there and volunteer at your local food bank already.
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